Memorials & Donations

Many families like to commemorate their loved one’s resting place with a permanent memorial.

We do not arrange this but we can put you in contact with some skilled craftspeople including monumental masons. Please ask us for more information.

We would like to commission a gravestone. Who should we contact?

Our local memorial stone services are provided by:

G.R. Pinder Memorials, Scarborough
R.W Atkinson & Son Ltd, Malton/ Scarborough – 01653 697910/ 01723 862324

What sort of gravestone can we have?

North Yorkshire is fortunate to have many skilled masons. They can carve inscriptions into head stones, gravestones, tombstones and memorials.

You can choose from marble, granite, slate or York stone. However we recommend you speak first to the cemetery management as to what is or not allowed to be erected.

Are there any

regulations regarding headstones?

Depending on location there may be restrictions. If the headstone is on public land, such as within a graveyard or cemetery, there are restrictions on its size. Churchyards may only allow a certain sort of stone.

For immediate help or advice please call us on 01723 859 279 at any time. When you call us, you’ll speak to one of our experienced team. We’re here to help you through every stage of the process. If you have any questions, please just ask.

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Donations

Many people choose to commemorate a loved one through giving donations to their favourite charities.

You don’t need to pick just one as donations can be split between multiple charities. We can also deal with the distribution of donations afterwards.

Some local charities

Encephalitis Society

First Light Trust – a charity for hard to reach veterans of the armed forces and emergency services based in Scarborough.

Heart Research UK – helps to fund pioneering research into the prevention, treatment and cure of heart disease, based in Leeds.

West Ayton Surgery Amenities Fund

Yorkshire Air Ambulance – Help the Yorkshire Air Ambulance continue to save lives across the region.

Macmillan Fundraising Group – 55% of their funding comes from memory donations to support more people with cancer and their families. They make sure no one faces cancer alone in York, Ryedale and North Yorkshire Coast.

Marie Curie provides free nursing services to patients and carers.

The Rainbow Centre , a charity supporting the Castle area of Scarborough providing accommodation, medical needs and practical help.

RNLI/ Royal National Lifeboat Institution , the charity that saves lives at sea.

RSPCA Scarborough – Tackling animal cruelty and neglect. RSPCA Scarborough are totally self-funded and responsible for the area stretching between Whitby, Scarborough and Filey over to Pickering and Helmsley. Established in 1867, it is one of the oldest branches in the UK.

Scarborough Hospital Funds – in the past this has helped the Special Care Baby Unit , Children’s Wards, Surgical Wards with special cots, entertainment, cabinets and cushions. You can even stipulate a particular ward.

Free counselling for those who have used our services

We are a partner of SAIF Care. Their friendly Associate Counsellors help bereaved people over the age of 18. They are trained to listen, help you understand your experience of grief and develop self-care and coping strategies to deal with the challenges you may be facing. Find out more in Bereavement Support.

Call us any time

We are on hand at any time to give help and advice. Please call us with any questions on 01723 859 279.
You can also email us at office@stockillandsonfunerals.co.uk

Frequently Asked Questions

Got a question? We’re here to help.

Do you dress the deceased?

Yes we can dress the deceased for you, you need only hand over the belongings to us. Otherwise they are carefully shrouded in a silken gown.
Can we view the deceased?

Yes. We just need appropriate notice to ensure absolute privacy for you.
Will the deceased need to be embalmed?

Embalming is not usually necessary given the advancement in storage facility technology. However, we can arrange for embalming if requested.
Do you have coffin bearers?

Yes, we have trained coffin bearers. We pride ourselves in being able to offer pallbearers who carry the coffins on their shoulders rather than using a trolley. Family members may carry, but here at F A Stockill we will always ensure there are enough bearers on hand on the day, just in case. Please note we never allow family to lower coffins on a burial.
How many coffin bearers will be needed?

This depends on the size and weight of the coffin. Usually there are between four and six bearers.
Do funeral directors re-use coffins?

No, most definitely not. The coffin is cremated or buried with the deceased.
Can I touch the coffin as I leave the ceremony?

Yes, absolutely.
As a member of the congregation, can we take away the Order of Service or should we leave it there?

Please take it with you. An Order of Service can provide a lovely memento of your family member or friend for quiet contemplation later.
Do crematoriums cremate more than one person at a time?

No. The only exception is if the next of kin have requested it for a mother and baby or small twin children.
What happens when the curtains shut at the crematorium?

Nothing happens until the congregation have left the building. The coffin is removed from behind the curtain after the service has taken place.
When do we collect the ashes?

They are usually available two to three days after the service. In case of urgent matters such as limited time or travel they may be available on the same day.

We will never hassle you to collect the ashes from us. Some families wish different things and maybe wish to wait until the other parent has passed to scatter both. We have stored some ashes for over 25 years. However, we do encourage family to arrange a resting place for them as soon as they feel able so as not to cause further upset later.

You may find our cremations section helpful.
Do funeral directors expect a tip?

We’ve included this as it’s a frequently asked question on the internet. The answer is no. Although Claire has never met a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates she didn’t like!
I have a question that isn’t answered. Can I ask you anonymously?

Absolutely – we welcome any feedback or questions. Just fill in this online form and we will post the answer on this page.

Plan ahead with golden charter pre-paid funeral plans

A funeral plan is an easy way to arrange the funeral you want in advance. A plan allows you to specify your wishes and pay for the funeral director’s services included in your plan. As customers often tell us, that can bring peace of mind to you and your family.

A plan from Golden Charter also includes an allowance towards third party costs. These are essential, non-funeral director services such as the cremation or burial fees, plus the minister or officiant’s fee to perform the service.

F. A. Stockill and Son Funeral Directors trading as F. A. Stockill and Son Funeral Directors is an appointed representative of Golden Charter Limited trading as Golden Charter Funeral Plans which is authorised and regulated by the Financial Conduct Authority (FRN:965279).