Funeral Service

A funeral service is as unique as the person who is being honoured.

We have been arranging funerals in North Yorkshire and the East Riding since 1927.

We offer pallbearers for coffins where feasible and tailor funerals to your exact wishes.

How long is a funeral service?

Crematorium services are usually 40 minutes long. A church service is about 40 minutes long too. However it can be longer depending on the number of hymns and readings.

Can pews be reserved?

Yes, in fact we recommend this to help the congregation know where to sit. We can discuss this with you before the ceremony.

Are dogs allowed at a funeral service?

For churches, this decision lies with the vicar. Dogs are allowed at Octon Crematorium and Woodlands Crematorium in Scarborough. However, any accidents/ carpet cleaning that may need to be carried out afterwards is at the owner’s expense.

For immediate help or advice please call us on 01723 859 279 at any time. When you call us, you’ll speak to one of our experienced team. We’re here to help you through every stage of the process. If you have any questions, please just ask.

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Order of Service sheets

Traditionally these booklets list the order of the funeral service. This could include hymns, readings and songs. They are a wonderful opportunity to celebrate the life of the deceased and can reflect that person in any way you wish.

Reading them provides an opportunity to quietly contemplate and reflect on loved one who has gone.

We take pride in producing bespoke Order of Service sheets. They can be produced in traditional black or coloured inks or even textured paper. Often they feature a photo of the person or maybe an illustration of something that reflects their hobby or passion.

Whoever you choose to lead the service be it minister or celebrant can help you in your meeting with the running order you would like.

An example

Order of Service Sheet

All of them differ, but to take one example:

Who is conducting the service
Lyrics for hymns
Readings
Tributes and who gives them
The name of the pieces of music or reflective music replacing hymns
Photographs – if any
Where donations in memory of the deceased should be made to
The location of any refreshments afterwards

Don’t know which hymns or poems to choose?

Please don’t worry. We’ll be happy to guide you as well as your service leader or minister/celebrant. We have an extensive database of poems and hymns that we can refer to.

Free counselling for those who have used our services

We are a partner of SAIF Care. Their friendly Associate Counsellors help bereaved people over the age of 18. They are trained to listen, help you understand your experience of grief and develop self-care and coping strategies to deal with the challenges you may be facing. Find out more in Bereavement Support.

Call us any time

We are on hand at any time to give help and advice. Please call us with any questions on 01723 859 279.
You can also email us at office@stockillandsonfunerals.co.uk

Frequently Asked Questions

Got a question? We’re here to help.

Do you dress the deceased?

Yes we can dress the deceased for you, you need only hand over the belongings to us. Otherwise they are carefully shrouded in a silken gown.
Can we view the deceased?

Yes. We just need appropriate notice to ensure absolute privacy for you.
Will the deceased need to be embalmed?

Embalming is not usually necessary given the advancement in storage facility technology. However, we can arrange for embalming if requested.
Do you have coffin bearers?

Yes, we have trained coffin bearers. We pride ourselves in being able to offer pallbearers who carry the coffins on their shoulders rather than using a trolley. Family members may carry, but here at F A Stockill we will always ensure there are enough bearers on hand on the day, just in case. Please note we never allow family to lower coffins on a burial.
How many coffin bearers will be needed?

This depends on the size and weight of the coffin. Usually there are between four and six bearers.
Do funeral directors re-use coffins?

No, most definitely not. The coffin is cremated or buried with the deceased.
Can I touch the coffin as I leave the ceremony?

Yes, absolutely.
As a member of the congregation, can we take away the Order of Service or should we leave it there?

Please take it with you. An Order of Service can provide a lovely memento of your family member or friend for quiet contemplation later.
Do crematoriums cremate more than one person at a time?

No. The only exception is if the next of kin have requested it for a mother and baby or small twin children.
What happens when the curtains shut at the crematorium?

Nothing happens until the congregation have left the building. The coffin is removed from behind the curtain after the service has taken place.
When do we collect the ashes?

They are usually available two to three days after the service. In case of urgent matters such as limited time or travel they may be available on the same day.

We will never hassle you to collect the ashes from us. Some families wish different things and maybe wish to wait until the other parent has passed to scatter both. We have stored some ashes for over 25 years. However, we do encourage family to arrange a resting place for them as soon as they feel able so as not to cause further upset later.

You may find our cremations section helpful.
Do funeral directors expect a tip?

We’ve included this as it’s a frequently asked question on the internet. The answer is no. Although Claire has never met a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates she didn’t like!
I have a question that isn’t answered. Can I ask you anonymously?

Absolutely – we welcome any feedback or questions. Just fill in this online form and we will post the answer on this page.

Plan ahead with golden charter pre-paid funeral plans

A funeral plan is an easy way to arrange the funeral you want in advance. A plan allows you to specify your wishes and pay for the funeral director’s services included in your plan. As customers often tell us, that can bring peace of mind to you and your family.

A plan from Golden Charter also includes an allowance towards third party costs. These are essential, non-funeral director services such as the cremation or burial fees, plus the minister or officiant’s fee to perform the service.

F. A. Stockill and Son Funeral Directors trading as F. A. Stockill and Son Funeral Directors is an appointed representative of Golden Charter Limited trading as Golden Charter Funeral Plans which is authorised and regulated by the Financial Conduct Authority (FRN:965279).